Oprah has hit Australian shores. Think what you will of her, but the only person who really knows what is going on in her life and what her thoughts may be, is Oprah herself. The Barbara Walters interview during the week made news here because of Oprah’s tearful assertion about her sexuality. Whose bloody business is it anyway? Do I give a damn if she is hetero, bi or gay? No. Intimacy is expressed in many ways. In the hug of your dearest friend, the concerned phone call, the sponsorship of a friend who needs to know that they are not alone, the unspoken words as people watch their memories – their livelihoods – destroyed by droughts and flooding rains. Sex is just one aspect of intimacy and does not necessarily translate to ‘love’. Anyone ever had a one night stand?
Who you share a bed with at night makes no difference to your ability to function as a person. In the words of a friend’s post on Facebook:
“Larry King is getting his 8th divorce, Elizabeth Taylor is possibly getting married for a 9th time, Britney Spears had a 55 hour marriage. Jesse James and Tiger Woods are screwing EVERYTHING, yet the idea of same-sex marriage is going to destroy the ……institution of …marriage?? Really? RRRREALLY…??”
I have a new poem in mind. It will take a little work, because there’s a veritable flood of words welling up in my mind at present and a book chapter still to edit. But, a Billy Joel tune has given me the idea and all I need to do is put it into practice. It’s not about Oprah, it’s about the hypocrisy of those who judge same-sex relationships. I am over hearing the whines of self-righteous religious indoctrinated people dictating to us about our standards of living when they themselves cannot get it right! There’s a good reason I gave away practicing Catholicism – I couldn’t get it and right and I didn’t want to! I simply did not accept enough of the central principles to live, what to me, would have been a lie.
Oprah’s response brought some cynical sorts to question why she had not married Stedman. From one who is happily engaged with no foreseeable wedding date, let me just say there are any number of reasons and not one of them is anyone else’s business. You can ask, but you may well be disappointed by the answer. Depending on how you phrase the query, you may even be offended. Had you asked me not all that long ago why I was still single, I would have told you a convenient answer, because, quite frankly, that is not your business either. What matters is am I a good person, am I harming anyone else and are my motives honourable? A person’s ability is judged by their deeds, toward others. If is not harming you, then keep you nose out of their business and let them be!